These are some books that inform my approach to psychotherapy in general and to couples and relationships in particular:
Gary Yontef, PhD, Awareness, Dialogue & Process, Essays on Gestalt Therapy (1993) Gestalt Journal Press For serious students of contemporary gestalt therapy
Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (2008) Little, Brown and Company For couples who want to work on their relationship, by the developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
Michael Vincent Miller, Intimate Terrorism: The Deteriorization of Erotic Life (1995) W.W. Norton & Co. Beautifully written treatise on the anxieties of romantic relationships
Daniel B. Wile, PhD, After the Fight, Using Your Disagreements to Build a Stronger Relationship (1993) Guilford Press Brilliant illustration of the workings of shame in relationship (couched in a different modality)
Philip Lichtenberg, Getting Even, The Equalizing Law of Relationship (1988) University Press Why oppression is counterproductive
Janis Abrahams Spring, PhD, After the Affair, Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful (1996) Harper Collins Compassionate and insightfull guidelines for mending a shattered relationship
